Does dating anxiety prevent you from finding the love you
crave? Take the following assessment to find out:
Please indicate how much the following problems have
bothered you during the past week.
0 = Not at all 1 = A little bit 2 = Somewhat 3 = Very much 4 = Extremely
0 = Not at all 1 = A little bit 2 = Somewhat 3 = Very much 4 = Extremely
Score
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1. I am afraid of people who I
find attractive.
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______
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2. I am bothered by blushing in
front of people who I find attractive .
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______
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3. I am scared of going on dates
and attending social events where I might interact with people who I
find attractive.
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______
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4. I avoid talking to strangers who
I find attractive .
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______
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5. Being criticized by
someone who I find attractive scares me a lot.
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______
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6. Fear of embarrassment causes me
to avoid dating or speaking to people who I find attractive.
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______
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7. Sweating in front of
people who I find attractive causes me distress.
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______
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8. I avoid dating and going to
parties where I might interact with people who I find attractive.
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______
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9. I avoid dating or speaking to
people who I find attractive because I don't want to be the center
of attention.
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______
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10. I'm scared of talking
to strangers who I find attractive.
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______
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11. I often can't think of anything
to say when interacting with someone who I find attractive.
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______
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12. I would do anything to avoid
being criticized by someone who I find attractive.
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______
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13. Heart palpitations bother me
when I am around people who I find attractive.
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______
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14. I am afraid of doing things
when people who I find attractive might be watching.
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______
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15. Being embarrassed or
looking stupid to people who I find attractive is among my worst
fears.
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______
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16. Trembling or shaking in front of
people who I find attractive is distressing me.
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______
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17. I use substances to manage the
fear I feel when on a date or otherwise interacting with someone who I find
attractive.
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______
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Severity
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None
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Mild
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Moderate
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Severe
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Very Severe
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Score
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Less than 20
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21 - 30
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31 - 40
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41 - 50
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51 or more
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If you scored anywhere between mild to very severe dating
anxiety, know that you're not alone. Dating anxiety is a subset of social anxiety disorder, which affects some 15 million American adults.
Thankfully, dating anxiety is treatable. I've helped hundreds
of singles gain greater self-confidence and develop loving relationships.
If you scored in the mild to moderate dating anxiety range,
I recommend attending one of my upcoming
groups or workshops and/or contacting me about individual
therapy or dating coaching. If you
scored in the severe to very severe range, I recommend individual therapy prior
to pursuing group work.
This Dating Anxiety Assessment draws from the Social
Phobia Inventory (SPIN), a 17-item self-rating scale for social anxiety
disorder (social phobia). Please note - your assessment results don't
constitute a clinical diagnosis and are intended to be used for educational
purposes only.
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